10 Crazy Ways to Love Yourself

Finding the right point between self-esteem and self-effacement is not easy. However, it's something you can master if you work hard on it. First of all I would like to mention 5 things to take in consideration if you want to reach the goal. (I'm still working on them).

1- Awake the conciousness of your own thoughts and feelings about yourself.
2- Notice that people can flatter you the same way that they can criticise you.
3- Listen to other's opinions about you without identify yourself with them.
4- Only *you* can decide your own value, even if it's true or false to others.
5- Love yourself desperately without bragging; try to keep it in secret.

When you love yourself you accept everything about you and try to be better everyday. Of course there's no need to mention this to everybody. In fact some people believe that if you love yourself too much, you'll become egocentric... so keep it in secret.

There are so many books about establishing the perfect relationship with others (specially your lover) and that's ok until a certain point. Focusing too much on what you want to receive from your partner can be exhausting. You need to focus on covering your own needs and wishes because only *you* know exactly what you want... so no more expectations :) That's happiness.

Our society has taught us differently: You have to find someone that can fulfil your needs etc. I mean, of course this is something that comes naturally when you're in a relationship; you care about your partner and he/she cares about you (including needs and wishes) but they are not there to guess everything you want (or miss from your childhood). To me, the concept of the half-orange has been misunderstood. You don't need to be completed by other. You are a human being that can fulfil your own needs (with help accepted) enjoying life with the person you love at the same time; but you are your own half-orange.

Love yourself in crazy way: 1- Dance alone and enjoy the music. 2- Get naked and make love to your own body. 3- Look for the things you wish to receive and get them. 4- Buy flowers to yourself (if you're a woman; or not). 5- Walk around your city alone and enjoy the views. 6- Work out and flatter your own body. 7- Eat your favourite meal alone. 8- Listen to a mantra and feel the energy inside of you. 9- Discover that you're not alone when you are with yourself. 10- Say *welcome* to the person you like in your life (as a lover) and teach him/her all the things you have learned.

It doesn't matter if you don't look like and actor or a top model. You need to find the special points about you. The points that nobody else has. I know it is difficult with all the media and advertising convincing us to be like somebody else. Don't let them decide who you are. Only you can decide that. They just want to sell things through stereotypes of beauty. Feel free to be yourself and to love yourself in a crazy way. I have just started.

Do you really need to be loved by others?

I wasn't sure about what I was going to write today... until a few hours ago.

Love! I don't want to talk about that kind of romantic and passionate love that almost everyone dream about (including me). Perhaps I do, but in a different way. I want to talk about the love that we feel for ourselves; and I know that this subject could sound a little bit boring for some people. However, thanks to this kind of love you can discover a whole new world full of opportunities. When you love yourself, you don't have to expect love or any kind of actions from others in the name of love, not even from your partner. I mean, you should expect respect and kindness, but never depend on another person to be loved. You can love yourself first and discover that when you're not expecting anything from others, you can be gladly surprised when you receive something special from them (including love). Isn't that amazing? I believe so!

Now, discover if you love yourself as you should. Answer to the 5 next questions:

1- Do you say or think honest and kind things about you in front of the mirror?
2- Do you eat healthy food and do exercise regularly thinking that your body is the vehicle of your soul and that you have to take good care of it because of that?
3- Do you feel good with yourself even when someone say nasty things about you without any justifiable reason?
4- Do you give you the things you need to be loved? Like flowers, toys, delicious dinners with candles around or little details to yourself, without telling anyone?
5- Do you dance alone listening to your favourite music and feeling grateful for your life?

If you answered Yes  to more than 3 options then Congratulations! You love yourself or you're starting to do it. Keep going and complete your own list. Now, if you answered No to more than 3 options then you need to start paying attention to your self-esteem. It's important to love yourself to receive the love of others without suffering. Don't feel sad and start right now! You have 5 exercises to change your life from now on.

I hope you have enjoyed my writing. It would be amazing if you share it with people who you think could need to read it as well. I wish you all the best in your new path of true love.