7 Steps to Find Out What's in Your Silence!

Silence... that's the word that has been in my mind all this week. In silence you can find the answers you need, or maybe you'll find just a terrible silence. However, if you try to find a quite place and stay there all by your own, you may confront your own thoughts in a different ways if you pay attention to them. It's like they emerge without asking permission. It's like they have its own intelligent; and when they notice that you are observing them, they stop because the true You is in control. It sounds a little weird, but when you discover it, a new journey begins.

When you are in silence you can dream, visit other dimensions, travel in time and change your own memories as well. It's like a magic wand that you can use to be happier than the rest of the world. Everybody have this kind of experience when they are sleeping and that's why we need to sleep, to stay in silent to find our inner self. Sometimes people don't remember its own dreams, but when they start to be connected with themselves, they start to remember and the effect is marvellous. The silent is not external, and you'll know it after doing this exercise.

Practical Exercises to Discover What's in your Silence: 

1. Find a quiet place where you can sit down without being interrupted for 15 minutes.

2. Relax and breath profoundly for a few seconds trying to feel your own body and life.

3. Put pen to paper and be ready to write any thought that appears while you're breathing.

4. Don't worry if you miss some thoughts. That's because you are in automatic thinking.

5. Write down any thought you can catch without judging yourself. (e.g. I need to wash the dishes. I need to study. I want to travel and run away from my problems. I don't want that situation in my life, etc) Stop when you notice that the thoughts start to repeat themselves.

6. Read the thoughts out loud and notice if some of them make you feel anxious. Are they really so important? If so, write the things you can do to stop worrying about them (set an alarm to complete your task could help). If not, write a new positive thought related to them (preferably add this new thoughts beside each sentence).

7. Keep the paper in a visible place and repeat the exercise weekly or monthly. That way you can check your own progress. It's important to control your thoughts and not the other way around. Otherwise you're gonna be haunted by them without knowing it. Also pay attention to the quantity. If you have more than 10 thoughts worrying you, it's probable that you're gonna be stressful all the day. Controlling your thoughts you'll be controlling the horse in your mind!




When I listen to my silent I can feel who I really am. But the more important of all is that I can see myself through others eyes; and I know that whether I like it or not... we are the same, one cosmic soul.

Growing up and finding happiness!

I've been thinking about the verb (or phrasal verb like my teacher would say ) "Grow up"; perhaps because I'm gonna be 26 years old in about 3 months. So I was wondering if I've grown up enough until now.

According to thefreedictionary.com the word "Grow" refers to develop and reach maturity. Moreover, it says that to "Grow up" is to become an adult. However, I was questioning what does the word "adult" really mean? Well, I googled it and the first answer appeared on Wikipedia: "Biologically, an adult is a human being or other organism that has reached sexual maturity. In human context, the term adult additionally has meanings associated with social and legal concepts. In contrast to a "minor", a legal adult is a person who has attained the age of majority and is therefore regarded as independent, self-sufficient, and responsible."

All that information made realize that biologically and legally speaking, of course I'm an adult. However, have I reach maturity? Well, I checked the concept and this was the answer: "In psychology, maturity is the ability to respond to the environment in an appropriate manner. This response is generally learned rather than instinctive. Maturity also encompasses being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act, according to the circumstances and the culture of the society one lives in."

After reading these concepts, I think that "Growing up" is a process that you pass through day by day; and there´s not a particular age to reach real maturity. In fact I've known "old people" who are completely immature.

I guess that I'm still in the process of growing up, specially taking in consideration this part: "Being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act" I know that the definition is incomplete, of course. However, it made me realize that "Growing up" implies to behave in the best way. For me, that means that  if you want to reach a better purpose, you need to let go the "bad" things you've done before or the ones you want to continue doing; but I also know that sometimes is difficult to choose sides (the concept of good and bad is up to you). I guess we have to fight for it, although that could be a battle against our own feelings and basic instincts.

It is also important to be awake, because sometimes we want to be happy only if our family or friends behave in a particular way; or if they give us exactly what we want to receive (even if it's something that it's not possible or it's part of our egoistic desires). We are so close-minded and sometimes so blind, that we want to fulfil our needs through a relationship (any kind), like it was a food service; when we really need to find happiness and love through ourselves. I believe that's the job we have to do to finally "Grow up"; and when we accomplish it, we only need to teach others how to do the same.

I have a lot of work to do now... Growing up is a hard but rewarding work I suppose!

<This post was written thinking about my future children and family> 



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Things that only you can decide!

There're things you don't know, things you've learned from others and you've accepted because you didn't have other choice. Negative and positive things. Things about your role in life, things about its roots, about its truly motives, about its effects on you.

We believe that we know everything or almost everything; we pretend not being afraid of the uncertain existence. We smile at people; we become embittered when we want to protect ourselves; we use masks in front of people, so we can look like we already know everything, because we are adults. We even convince ourselves of that. If it's not possible, we cover it going to parties, drinking, eating, smoking, etc. We distract ourselves to forget the dilemma of not knowing who are we and what are we doing in this world. We turn a blind eye about it and we keep up suffering. We keep up fearing; we keep up feigning.

Meanwhile, life doesn't seem to care. She continues, you can´t elusive its effects. Its paths are uncertain. She continues, even if we're still asleep. The school of life doesn't stop its activities. Even though we believe that we are not part of it; we are always learning, approving or repeating lessons. It's a perfect cosmic harmony from that we all learn according to our grade. 

What does our family tell us when we're children that we have to achieve in life? Well, it depends on each culture. Generally speaking, they encourage us to obtain money, have your own family and if you are lucky, you can work in something that you feel passion about (just to compensate the working hours). That last one is the ideal achievement. However, we know that few people make it happens. The good thing is that meanwhile, we learn a lot of things... Things that maybe we don´t realize that we're learning. We learn spiritual things through material things.

Each one learns something different through specific situations. It is not necessary to be awake. It´s not necessary that you know that you are here to evolve your soul. No, it is not! However, when you realize that, your life starts to chance and you realize the power that you have right now. Having this knowledge, you can face your problems with more cleverness, peace and less fear. Because from now on, you know what is your truly role in this world and you stop following other people; beginning an extraordinary travel to your inner-world. This travel is connected with the cosmic energy; because you realize that you are part of the cosmos; that you share its atoms; that you and the cosmos are one. Therefore, all the planet earth habitants, including you and me, are one. 

However, I know that is more difficult to accept it than understand it. Our ego is attached to our body. We tend to believe just what we see; only the things that were taught to us by others (not by our inner-self). We interpret things from spiritual masters through the church (whichever); or we don't believe anything at all. The fear tie us up; We keep going anyway... because life doesn´t stop. We have new objectives and goals. We stay asleep but it doesn't matter, because life keeps up teaching us while we are awake or not.

Each one choose to stay asleep or to wake up once for all... but remember something; wake up is not the goal nor a magical spell to be happy; it is the beginning of a new and challenging path...


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