Observing Beyond Our Minds

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We have no clue of who we are... We pretend to know though... Personally, I can't understand when we forgot who we really are. There are so many philosophies and religions trying to figure all out. I'm sure I haven't explored all of them, but each one is trying to convince you of something. That's why there are so many atheists in the world. I guess they are tired of believing (even of themselves). Anyway, the questions remain... Who are we? Why are we here? Everybody has to create its own theory; others just live in autopilot without thinking too much about it; without being conscious of themselves (almost like zombies) until they die and the cycle starts again in another body.

At least we know that energy can't be destroyed; and that we are made of energy... For me there's no doubt about it!

I've discovered that meditation is not a religion, in fact it is just a way of connecting with your inner-self. So it works even for atheists! I believe that this is the only way to discover the true about ourselves. If we have been living for so many years in different bodies, learning and doing the same things over and over and over... I believe it's time to break the cycle understanding that We Are Not Our Minds, we are someone or something else behind them. What is it? I definitely want to learn more about this mystery; and I invite you to do the same if you want to be free of your own desires and suffering.

First step, observe yourself everyday and each time you can. You can have the power of conciousness if you like; but you have to train hard. It's not going to be easy but I think it is going to be worth it.

Good luck traveller!

7 Tips to Overcome Sadness

Sometimes I wonder what about the things that keep us alive. From the things that distract us to the things that we believe are the reason of our life... Do we have to have a reason to keep going? Well, we need to have it, if not our life would turn out meaningless I guess.

We as human beings have always had dreams. Dreams that are commonly related to money, love, sex, entertainment, etc. However if we don't have the things we wish for, we end up angry or depressed. So the only thing we want is to be happy through any of our desires. The problem is that it's not that easy because the mind doesn't seem to be pleased enough with anything. It's always wishing new things over and over and over. Happiness seems so ephemera sometimes, but I want so share seven things I do to overcome this strange feeling:


1- Training your mind by observing its thoughts as (only) symbols created by our society.
2- Breathing and stretching your body through yoga or any other type of exercise (even walking).
3- Listening to the type of music you enjoy the most. Preferably a positive one.
4- Watching a touching movie or profound documentary.
5-  Helping someone; perhaps listening to someone who needs it.
6- Feeling the feelings, let them pass without getting attached to them.
7- Sharing with the people you love. Tell them how much you love them.

According to the Toltec wisdom we are the creators of our own life (dream). Us as a society contribute to live in the same dream. I believe that all of this is just a cosmic excuse to develop our inner self; because at the end, our body dies and we have nothing more that our own energy or soul, travelling around the universe as part of it.

Issues with our job, family and friends are just short term creations; but we worry so much about them. That's the way humans have decided to dream since a long time ago. I feel that the time has come. We need to wake up and change the dream (Changing Hell for Heaven)

However it is so difficult to explain this with words, as they are only symbols created by artists (human beings) practising. The truth doesn't have any language. The truth is pure mystery; and sooner or later we'll have to discover it inside of us.

Once again I recommend reading the book: The Fifth Agreement by Don MiguelRuiz. Read my previews post to understand why - http://lewrl.blogspot.ie/2014/06/the-truth-about-truth.html

Thanks for reading; and leave a comment if you want.

Having a job is just a cosmic excuse! Do you know why?

Everybody has to have a job. It's obvious, you need money to survive; at least in this kind of society, whether you like it or not. It doesn't matter if you're not a materialist; you need to eat and cover your needs, don't you?

When you finish school and you start thinking about what are you going to do during the next years of your life; you don't realise the importance of this decision. You can be a doctor, a lawyer, a programmer, a dancer, a musician, a journalist, a designer... So many roles to choose, and you have to decide the best one, according to your skills and desires.

After all, you choose and start your own path. Then, when you're looking for a job position, the first thing you want to know is the salary and benefits the company is offering. However, I think that beyond that, you need to be aware of how do you feel when you're in their offices; how do they treat you; and how can this position help you to be better than now. Moreover, how can you help them to reach their objectives. It's the same if you're starting a new business or a freelance activity; the most important thing is to realise that beyond the salary and everything, your life is all that matters. You as a soul that is living in a human body; working for a company or charity; establishing your own business; and even as an unemployed. The goals are the same: Being aware of your inner self; learning new things, enjoying new experiences and helping others every time you can. 

Everyone has a special door waiting to be open by the right person; that door is going to show you a way to enjoy happiness. Don't hurry up trying to open the wrong doors; just follow your sixth sense and open the right door. It has been made for you and only you can feel it.

Don't forget that the universe uses these human circumstances to help you (and others around you); to be better; to be good; and to find inner peace as a way of happiness. But remember, it's better to be completely aware of ourselves during this process of life, and not on automatic pilot as we tend to.

It's time to wake up! It's time to live our life consciously; here and now!

Growing up and finding happiness!

I've been thinking about the verb (or phrasal verb like my teacher would say ) "Grow up"; perhaps because I'm gonna be 26 years old in about 3 months. So I was wondering if I've grown up enough until now.

According to thefreedictionary.com the word "Grow" refers to develop and reach maturity. Moreover, it says that to "Grow up" is to become an adult. However, I was questioning what does the word "adult" really mean? Well, I googled it and the first answer appeared on Wikipedia: "Biologically, an adult is a human being or other organism that has reached sexual maturity. In human context, the term adult additionally has meanings associated with social and legal concepts. In contrast to a "minor", a legal adult is a person who has attained the age of majority and is therefore regarded as independent, self-sufficient, and responsible."

All that information made realize that biologically and legally speaking, of course I'm an adult. However, have I reach maturity? Well, I checked the concept and this was the answer: "In psychology, maturity is the ability to respond to the environment in an appropriate manner. This response is generally learned rather than instinctive. Maturity also encompasses being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act, according to the circumstances and the culture of the society one lives in."

After reading these concepts, I think that "Growing up" is a process that you pass through day by day; and there´s not a particular age to reach real maturity. In fact I've known "old people" who are completely immature.

I guess that I'm still in the process of growing up, specially taking in consideration this part: "Being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act" I know that the definition is incomplete, of course. However, it made me realize that "Growing up" implies to behave in the best way. For me, that means that  if you want to reach a better purpose, you need to let go the "bad" things you've done before or the ones you want to continue doing; but I also know that sometimes is difficult to choose sides (the concept of good and bad is up to you). I guess we have to fight for it, although that could be a battle against our own feelings and basic instincts.

It is also important to be awake, because sometimes we want to be happy only if our family or friends behave in a particular way; or if they give us exactly what we want to receive (even if it's something that it's not possible or it's part of our egoistic desires). We are so close-minded and sometimes so blind, that we want to fulfil our needs through a relationship (any kind), like it was a food service; when we really need to find happiness and love through ourselves. I believe that's the job we have to do to finally "Grow up"; and when we accomplish it, we only need to teach others how to do the same.

I have a lot of work to do now... Growing up is a hard but rewarding work I suppose!

<This post was written thinking about my future children and family> 



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Is there coincidence or destiny in our life?

Do you believe in coincidences or in destiny? I believe in both... I believe that some things are meant to be only if you take the opportunity. I believe that only if you follow the signs, you'll find the person you're supposed to be. Perhaps you have several possibilities in your destiny. Each decision could be a determinant factor to change your life, thus your destiny. However, some things seem to exist for a reason. If you have read my first post of the year (or if you know me as a friend), you know I'm a "spiritual" person. That's why I believe on this force that some people call "God"; I'm talking about that invisible force, which is moving the pieces of the universe at this very moment. That's right! I believe on that crap, as so many people think it is... I would like to tell you my experience about why I believe on that "crap" anyway:

Things started to make a lot of more sense a few years ago. Now I know how well connected those things have been in my life. I suppose I can start talking about the moment I was in secondary school. When I was living in Caracas, Venezuela and even though the school had some "bad" influencers in my class, I was a very good student. Anyway, I kept studying, having good scores, being friend of the "good" boys and girls as well. During that period I loved listening Enya (irish singer) while I was studying for my exams; fairies and leprechauns were, for some reason, characters in which I believed and wrote about.

I finished my last year with honours. Although I was brilliant in biology, I decided to study something related to humanities: Social Communication and Advertising were my main options. Despite my desire of being a journalist, I could study advertising in a small institute of "new professions". I wasn't completely sure about it. However, it was my only option if I wanted to study something similar and cheaper than journalism. I don't regret it. It was the decision that I needed to make to find my destiny without knowing it. Meanwhile, I was working as an operator, selling hotel memberships in a little office near my house. I had to call a lot of people from a list everyday. It was stressful because you needed to sell if you wanted to gain extra sales commissions. At the same time I was happy because I was studying my first semester of advertising.

My father couldn't understand why I was studying that; he was worried thinking how could I get a job in my country having "that" profession (taking in consideration the difficult political situation). To be honest, I didn't know either, but I had hope and I was following my heart . I was paying my own studies thanks to my "operator" position. Suddenly I got an interview due to one of my sales calls. The man that answered that call didn't buy the membership that I was selling. However, he liked my way of selling and didn't believe that I was 18 years old. So he invited me to his office; he was the owner and director of an insurance brokers company. Moreover, they were creating a new marketing department and they were interested in my skills. "Fortunately" I got the job, even though I didn't had official experience about marketing. So I was starting my second semester and I already had a job position related to my studies (marketing assistant). That was amazing!

After almost two years working with them, I decided to quit and find a new path. I was finishing my degree and I needed to do an internship. I was tire of selling insurances... So I applied to several companies. Then, I found one free position in a digital agency. I started working there and I gained a lot of experience related to online marketing. I was discovering a whole new world; learning things about domains, hosting, Google ads, SEO, SEM, etc. Additionally, I found love among all that working and learning. He and I had the same dream of living abroad someday. We even applied to get the Canadian Visa (which we failed). He published his CV on a international job platform and he actually received an Irish job proposal that he couldn't get because he didn't have a work permit. Even though the possibility of living abroad was going far away, we kept dreaming about it.

One year and four months passed and I got a new job proposal from an international NGO. I was delighted with the possibility of working for their cause: Helping children. They accepted me in the new online fundraising department and I loved it since the beginning. Even though I had the skills they needed, I had to learn new things because this area was new in the Venezuelan market. People from Europe went to my home-country and gave me all the information I needed to start making online campaigns to raise funds for the cause. In a few weeks I was launching banners campaigns an doing email marketing. The outcomes were impressive. Everybody was keen of my work and I even started to train other colleagues.

I worked in that NGO for almost three years until my boyfriend and I decided to live together and founded our own digital agency. We wanted to keep helping NGOs and developing websites and blogs for other companies. We did it from home for around one year; we had our own studio for it (inside of the new apartment we had recently bought). Meanwhile my CV was becoming better for a 24 year-old girl. Then, we travelled to the USA (to explore Miami and Orlando); It was there when we realized more than ever that our home-country was in a very difficult situation and that we needed to go away as soon as possible. Finally, we started to make the arrangements to reach our goal (selling our new car was one of those sacrifices we made). The signs guided us to a country that I always had dreamt about; Ireland.

Everything that happened could've been a coincidence; or maybe I made my own destiny by myself. I'm not sure, but now that I'm looking backwards, I see an intelligence behind all those opportunities that I've taken. I believe that there's a plan behind our life. A plan that maybe we made before incarnating into this world... but that's just if you believe on that kind of crazy things.

Now, it's up to you. Look backwards and make your own conclusions.